No relationship is perfect but dating period is supposed to be very fun and not full of pain. If you are dating someone and your heart is broken about that person, it’s time to reconsider. If someone hits you physically, cheats on you or verbally abuse you for example demeaning you or calling you names, don’t take it lightly. It usually gets worse. Females are wired to see hope in many hopeless situations and it is good to be aware of how you are wired. This is a good quality in good or in needed situations but this same quality causes many women to stay in a lot of negativity they are not meant to bare. As woman, you need to quickly realize that you don’t have the power to change a man who is not nice to you. What you see is what you are getting and only gets worse if it starts bad. The more negativity you take, the worse it tends to get. We show people how they shall treat us, believe it or not.
Ladies, until you love yourself enough and claim for yourself exactly what you want, you will not get what you want but whatever comes your way. You must feel good about yourself because you deserve to, before you can pursue a relationship that view you that way. If you are dating someone with hopes of marriage and you are unhappy already, you need to think twice. There is someone out there who will love you for who you are and treat you with dignity and respect no matter what your situation is. It only has to start with how you view yourself. You deserve the very best and don’t let anything or anyone make you think less of yourself. Think of a diamond; no matter what it fall into, it remains beautiful, precious and valuable. You are much more than diamond no matter what you have been through. Claim the best for yourself because you deserve it. Start with yourself before you let someone else into your life.
While we must use our phones and gadgets, we need to pay attention to how they affect those we love especially our children while raising them. I was waiting somewhere and observed interaction between a mother and about 4 year old son. He needed his mother’s attention but her full attention was on her phone. This child would try to climb of her lap and she would not look at him but while still staring at her screen, kept pushing him back to the sit next to her. The child would look down, stand on his chair and get his face in front of his mother and she would without looking at him push him back to his sit. Whenever he looked at us I smiled at him and he would smile back playfully and then turn to his mother who pushed him back to his sit. How sad!
Our children need our full attention. How can we wonder why they run off once they hit teenage if we never pay them attention and instead make them feel like they don’t matter to us? If you don’t give them attention, they will seek it wherever they can find it. Be intentional about showing your children they matter. That will make them solid and will set for them high standards for their future.
The thoughts you entertain in your mind will rule your confession, your actions and ultimately your life. Choose your thought life. A bird may land on your head but you must allow it to build a nest on your head. Likewise, thoughts will go through our mind but how long a thought linger is our choice and will affect us even if it’s by wasting our time. I remember thinking that my opinion did not matter and I felt inadequate. I had dreams burning in my heart but I kept pushing them down but was remained restless because I was aware of my burning heart. One day, I made a decision that I couldn’t live that way any more. I decided to takes steps of faith. I started to claim for myself that I matter and if no one else think so I do. I have been surprised how changing our thoughts can change our lives. It works. Not because I have experienced it to be so but because God said so in his word and His word no not return to Him void. “12 Therefore, brothers and sisters, we have an obligation—but it is not to the flesh, to live according to it. 13 For if you live according to the flesh, you will die; but if by the Spirit you put to death the misdeeds of the body, you will live.14 For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God.15 The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship.[f] And by him we cry, “Abba,[g] Father.” 16 The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children. 17 Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.”
Our culture today tells us to be self reliant in every way and asking has become more difficult. Yet we are made to need each other as we travel along the journey of life. No man is created to be a loner. We need to give and to receive from each other and to support each. Sometimes, people are afraid to ask for help when in need because it almost seems improper. But as Jesus said, we last because we do not ask. He says, “9 “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 10 For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened.” (Luke 11:9-10 NIV).
Asking is not a sign of weakness. It takes boldness to ask but we need to get more bold about it. It also sets those around you free to trust and ask. Especially, ask in prayer. God never gets tired of hearing our petitions and he is faithful and just to answer us. It may not always be exactly what we expect but He meets our needs and blesses us with even wants. Have a blessed day.
One of the most painful things about betrayal is that it comes from someone close. Psalm 55:12-14 says “12 If an enemy were insulting me, I could endure it; if a foe were rising against me, I could hide. 13 But it is you, a man like myself, my companion, my close friend, 14 with whom I once enjoyed sweet fellowship at the house of God, as we walked about among the worshipers.”
Being betrayed is very painful and causes many to close themselves in, making life more difficult. Jesus was betrayed by his friend Judas. From reading the bible, Judas was not an evil person. If he was evil, he would not have felt so much pain about what he did that he committed suicide. He was a messed up guy who kept his selfish interests closer to himself than we should as believers. I am convinced he thought Jesus could save himself and greed in him made him think he could get free money after all. Some friends in your lives may think the same way and end up betraying you.
We overcome betrayal by forgiving and not letting it close us in. When we decide to never love or be loved again because someone betrayed us, we are contributing in hurting ourselves. It is important to learn, grow and make changes. But Don’t let the things that happen to you control your life. Take charge of your life. Claim what you want to see happen and move towards it.
Physical disability makes life difficult but disability of the mind destroys life. Many people with physical disability and a healthy mind make the best of their lives and many do great things and blessings others. A mind with disability believes life is not worth living and nothing good is possible. Either someone told them they are not good enough, or can’t make it and the mind believed the lie and held onto it. This person may have dreams in their heart, great talent, healthy body but yet living a miserable life because their mind does not match the rest of the person. The heart knows you’ve got great destiny but the mind holds on the lie that you can’t and great things are not meant for you. The good news is; there is solution for the mind with disability and we have control over the solution. CHANGE YOUR MIND.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world,but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. (Roman’s 12:2 NIV).
Ever felt like someone healed you of a big disease for letting you use their bathroom which is not meant for public use? Sometimes, it is the small things of life that make a difference for another person. A simple smile could save the day. Do small things to bless those around you. You never know how much pain a small act may mean to someone else. Have a blessed day