Trust yourself! Self-confidence will take you and sustain you in places where physical beauty might take you but cannot sustain you. The only physical beauty that remains intact is the glow on your face; but once you develop self-confidence, it can only gets better if you keep working at it. Get to know your abilities and strength to be realistic in self judgement. No matter what you have been through, the abilities God placed in you are still there. Getting into a relationship with a good man is not based on a perfect past but on how you feel about yourself. The good news is that feelings can be changed with intention. View yourself from God’s point of view because how God sees you will never change. You are his beloved one no matter what you have gone through, what they think or say about you. Believe about yourself what God says about you and become solid in it before getting into a serious dating relationship. Once you develop self-confidence, it will guild you into choosing a man to date and hopefully get married to. Don’t wait to be with a man to believe in yourself. Believe in yourself first. Once you know well who you are, it makes it possible to only accept to date the right person. Don’t date anyone who shows up with hopes they will change. Don’t be afraid if you leave him you won’t find another one. That is to set yourself up for a failed or unhappy marriage if even, it happens. Know also what you want in a man and be patient in prayer. There are more good men out there than we realize. They don’t turn out good when we manipulate the situation. keep in mind marriage is meant for the rest of your life and divorce is extremely painful for your children and for you. Spend more in preparing yourself because divorce is extremely expensive in all way. Develop self-confidence by becoming solid in who you are and then make up your your mind what you want in a man before you start dating anyone. While physical beauty may appeal to some at first, self-confidence naturally sustains. “35 Therefore do not cast away your confidence, which has great reward. 36 For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise” (Hebrews 10:35-36).
Ann Makena is a wife and a mother. She is a Clinical/Hospice chaplain with more than ten years experience. She is an independent instructor through community education and mainly instructs on intercultural communications and relations, parenting and Swahili, among other adult personal growth subjects. She co-hosts a local TV show within twin cities metro area. Ann is an ordained pastor and active in her church. She is an inspirational speaker. She is the founder of City's Heart Cry Ministries (501(c)3) in USA and Heart Cry organization NGO in Kenya, providing home, health and education for orphaned and abandoned children. She is the author of “Become Whole, Unbreakable and Unstoppable” and “Knowing and Yielding to The Voice That Counts” She is a co-author of “Miracles Still Happen, IF YOU DON’T BELIEVE-EXPLAIN ME” with her son Nate Munene (who was not expected to survive at birth has endured major medical complications and is thriving). Ann has found success in parenting in spite of dealing with severe medical conditions and believes trusting God and being intentional brings about success. Ann has M.A in Ministry leadership, M.A in Theological studies, B.A in Psychology-Counseling and B.A. in Divinity. She has C.P.E. (Clinical Pastoral Education). . "I have a heart for oppressed women and single mothers of the world. I enjoying spending time with family, reading, writing, quiet time, and gospel/inspirational music among other interests. I stand on, Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths,” NKJV."