Trust yourself! Self-confidence will take you and sustain you in places where physical beauty might take you but cannot sustain you. The only physical beauty that remains intact is the glow on your face; but once you develop self-confidence, it can only gets better if you keep working at it. Get to know your abilities and strength to be realistic in self judgement. No matter what you have been through, the abilities God placed in you are still there. Getting into a relationship with a good man is not based on a perfect past but on how you feel about yourself. The good news is that feelings can be changed with intention. View yourself from God’s point of view because how God sees you will never change. You are his beloved one no matter what you have gone through, what they think or say about you. Believe about yourself what God says about you and become solid in it before getting into a serious dating relationship. Once you develop self-confidence, it will guild you into choosing a man to date and hopefully get married to. Don’t wait to be with a man to believe in yourself. Believe in yourself first. Once you know well who you are, it makes it possible to only accept to date the right person. Don’t date anyone who shows up with hopes they will change. Don’t be afraid if you leave him you won’t find another one. That is to set yourself up for a failed or unhappy marriage if even, it happens. Know also what you want in a man and be patient in prayer. There are more good men out there than we realize. They don’t turn out good when we manipulate the situation. keep in mind marriage is meant for the rest of your life and divorce is extremely painful for your children and for you. Spend more in preparing yourself because divorce is extremely expensive in all way. Develop self-confidence by becoming solid in who you are and then make up your your mind what you want in a man before you start dating anyone. While physical beauty may appeal to some at first, self-confidence naturally sustains. “35 Therefore do not cast away your confidence, which has great reward. 36 For you have need of endurance, so that after you have done the will of God, you may receive the promise” (Hebrews 10:35-36).
No relationship is perfect but dating period is supposed to be very fun and not full of pain. If you are dating someone and your heart is broken about that person, it’s time to reconsider. If someone hits you physically, cheats on you or verbally abuse you for example demeaning you or calling you names, don’t take it lightly. It usually gets worse. Females are wired to see hope in many hopeless situations and it is good to be aware of how you are wired. This is a good quality in good or in needed situations but this same quality causes many women to stay in a lot of negativity they are not meant to bare. As woman, you need to quickly realize that you don’t have the power to change a man who is not nice to you. What you see is what you are getting and only gets worse if it starts bad. The more negativity you take, the worse it tends to get. We show people how they shall treat us, believe it or not.
Ladies, until you love yourself enough and claim for yourself exactly what you want, you will not get what you want but whatever comes your way. You must feel good about yourself because you deserve to, before you can pursue a relationship that view you that way. If you are dating someone with hopes of marriage and you are unhappy already, you need to think twice. There is someone out there who will love you for who you are and treat you with dignity and respect no matter what your situation is. It only has to start with how you view yourself. You deserve the very best and don’t let anything or anyone make you think less of yourself. Think of a diamond; no matter what it fall into, it remains beautiful, precious and valuable. You are much more than diamond no matter what you have been through. Claim the best for yourself because you deserve it. Start with yourself before you let someone else into your life.