No relationship is perfect but dating period is supposed to be very fun and not full of pain. If you are dating someone and your heart is broken about that person, it’s time to reconsider. If someone hits you physically, cheats on you or verbally abuse you for example demeaning you or calling you names, don’t take it lightly. It usually gets worse. Females are wired to see hope in many hopeless situations and it is good to be aware of how you are wired. This is a good quality in good or in needed situations but this same quality causes many women to stay in a lot of negativity they are not meant to bare. As woman, you need to quickly realize that you don’t have the power to change a man who is not nice to you. What you see is what you are getting and only gets worse if it starts bad. The more negativity you take, the worse it tends to get. We show people how they shall treat us, believe it or not.
Ladies, until you love yourself enough and claim for yourself exactly what you want, you will not get what you want but whatever comes your way. You must feel good about yourself because you deserve to, before you can pursue a relationship that view you that way. If you are dating someone with hopes of marriage and you are unhappy already, you need to think twice. There is someone out there who will love you for who you are and treat you with dignity and respect no matter what your situation is. It only has to start with how you view yourself. You deserve the very best and don’t let anything or anyone make you think less of yourself. Think of a diamond; no matter what it fall into, it remains beautiful, precious and valuable. You are much more than diamond no matter what you have been through. Claim the best for yourself because you deserve it. Start with yourself before you let someone else into your life.
Ann Makena is a wife and a mother. Outside of home, she is an independent instruct through community education and mainly instructs of intercultural communications and relations, parenting among other personal growth subjects for adults. She is a co-host of a local TV show within twin cities metro area. Ann is an ordained pastor and teaches on spiritual growth and application of scriptures. She is an inspirational speaker. She is the founder of sister charitable organization in U.S. and in Kenya providing home for orphaned and abandoned children. She also advocates for those oppressed among other ministries. She is the author of “Become Whole, Unbreakable and Unstoppable” and “Knowing and Yielding to The Voice That Counts” She is a co-author of “Miracles Still Happen, IF YOU DON’T BELIEVE-EXPLAIN ME” with her son Nate Munene (who was not expected to survive at birth has endured major medical complications and is thriving). Ann has found success in parenting in spite of dealing with severe medical conditions and believes trusting God and being intentional brings about success. Ann has M.A in Ministry leadership, M.A in Theological studies, B.A in Psychology-Counseling and B.A. in Divinity. She has C.P.E. (Clinical Pastoral Education). She previously served as a full-time hospice chaplain for 10 years. She provided spiritual and emotional support for patients facing end of life diagnosis, along with their families as well as officiating funerals for some. "I have a heart for oppressed women and single mothers of the world. I enjoying spending time with family, reading, writing, quiet time, and gospel/inspirational music among other interests. I stand on, Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the LORD with all your heart, And lean not on your own understanding; In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths,” NKJV."