In many occasions, intimacy can not be expressed with words. It is a depth that only a heart’s mind knows. It is scary for those who have not experienced it but beneficial for those who know it. This was a place Mary chose with Jesus. While Jesus was carrying grief in His heart and preparing to die on the cross, Mary Identified it and helped prepare Him John 12:3 ” Then Mary took about a pint[a] of pure nard, an expensive perfume; she poured it on Jesus’ feet and wiped his feet with her hair. And the house was filled with the fragrance of the perfume.” Everyone else minded their business and some like Judas, express distaste for what Mary was doing. Like Mary, we can have great revelation of God’s move in our lives if we choose the right place with him. That is, spending time seeking Him in prayer and studying His word. God wants us to be His workmanship. But we must commit to seeking what that means for his kingdom. The more we discover our part in God’s will, the more effective and productive we become for His kingdom here on earth.
Luke 10:38 “As Jesus and his disciples were on their way, he came to a village where a woman named Martha opened her home to him. 39 She had a sister called Mary, who sat at the Lord’s feet listening to what he said.40 But Martha was distracted by all the preparations that had to be made. She came to him and asked, “Lord, don’t you care that my sister has left me to do the work by myself? Tell her to help me!”41 “Martha, Martha,” the Lord answered, “you are worried and upset about many things, 42 but few things are needed—or indeed only one.[f]Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her.””
I am truly thankful to the Star Gazette for not only publishing an article on my book but doing so on front page of the page. To God be glory.
For any relationship to develop deep and strong, it takes spending a lot of time together. Not in a hurry; relaxed calm time together. Business takes away from depth and trust in a developing relationship. Our culture today is leading us to unhealthy relationships or no relationships at all which is costing us unfortunately. God created humans to be relational and no education, money, carrier, or anything else can take that away because relational is in our genes. It will take intention on our part to go back to our basics though because many of us have lost the basics whether we are aware of it or not. Many young people today will text a person that is in the same room instead of talking to them. Depression, anxiety, and other mental related disorders are on the rise. Families and marriages are difficult to keep together and many children are growing in extremely dysfunctional situations in spite of having two parents in the home. We pride in signing up our children for every activity there is available and forget our children are growing up without knowing who they really are because they are too busy to just be. We as parents are so busy making money and other things that keep us away from our children. There are many parents who admit to spend only Fifteen minutes a day with their children. When they get them out of bed to drop at day care and when they pick them up worn and hurry to get them in bed. How can we know our children that way? How can we build any strong relationship in such a hurry? Yet this business and constant hurry is costing us every day. Our relationship with God which is the most important has completely lost place in our lives. Too busy for God. Can we really be surprise at all horrible things we see in our communities?
Spending time with God is necessary and should be a priority is our lives are going to be meaningful and fulfilling. Spending time with our spouse is necessary for a strong marriage. Spending time with our children, a lot of time is a must to have lasting close relationship but most of all, to help our children feel they are important to us, to know them and guide them the right way, to protect them from seeking attention in the wrong places, to basically help them become strongly who God made them to be. I pray that we evaluate our priorities for the better tomorrow of everyone.
PARENTING CHILDREN INTO WHOLENESS
Ann B. Makena
Westbow Press (132 pp.)
$11.95 paperback, $8.99 e-book
ISBN: 978-1-973605-09-6; November 7, 2017
Makena (Become Whole, Unbreakable, and Unstoppable, 2016, etc.) offers a Christian-themed parenting guidebook that
concisely covers a wide array of topics.
The author opens with a statement of encouragement that many readers of parenting books will find familiar, asserting
that there’s no such thing as a perfect parent, and that improvement is always possible: “Acknowledge when things
aren’t right, learn from it, work toward a better tomorrow, and show your love,” she writes. “Forgive others by loving
and forgiving yourself.” She sounds this note of pragmatic compassion throughout the book, shifting her attention from
one aspect of parenthood to another, addressing such topics as patterns of honesty, dealing with grief, time management,
and encouraging a child’s sense of uniqueness. The consistent background theme is the author’s ardent Christianity; this
is very much a book about raising Christian children. “Train them the reverence of God in all their ways,” she instructs
parents. “When no one else can be close enough, God is always there.” The fundamentalist tone of some sections may
worry some readers, but most of it is couched in general terms of hope and trust, and the underlying love effectively
comes through. Communication is the cornerstone of virtually every piece of advice here: “Communication is nonverbal,
verbal, and two-way,” she reminds readers. “It must all be understood correctly to foster strong, lasting relationships.”
She also advocates for fostering children’s reading habits and keeping a watchful eye on their nutrition; the book also
broaches questions regarding divorce, single parenting, adoption, and trauma—all in warm, empathetic tones that will
appeal to both parents and children. That said, Makena never lets her compassionate tone prevent her from offering
tough advice; when it comes to questions of blame and boundary-setting, for instance, she’s clear but firm.
A comprehensive, highly approachable child-rearing manual.
Kirkus Indie, Kirkus Media LLC, 6411 Burleson Rd., Austin, TX 78744