It is easy to rejoice when everything is going well. Children are healthy and happy, family is blessed, able to pay bills without interruptions etc. What about when your child falls sick and other things are not going as well? This week I was tested and my son got a little sick followed by vomiting. The first thing that came to mind was ‘YUK.’ I get to clean the vomit. Holy Spirit quickly reminded me of 4 years ago when he was on Ketogenic diet in which he drunk oil and vomited every day, multiple time a day many times. Cleaning vomit was my norm for 2&half years. Immediately my heart was filled with gratitude and worship and we both has a great day. Another day I met a friend who did me so good and blessed me beyond any expectation. After meeting, I was walked to my vehicle excited and rejoicing when I tripped and shoes broke leaving me on the ground on my knees. I got pretty hurt on my knees. When I got up, Holy Spirit quickened my heart to continue rejoicing and giving thanks. It wasn’t easy but I did it through my pain. My spirit was lifted and I realized the enemy is always trying to throw things at us to keep us from worshiping God. We must make a choice to worship Him through our pain. If anything will make Satan stay away from you, that thing is worship and thanks giving to our God. Worship makes God’s presence manifest and Satan can’t occupy God’s glory. Worship and thanks giving will minimize your pain and cause you to be positive no matter what the circumstances are which will definitely turn things around for your good.
16 Rejoice always, 17 pray without ceasing, 18 in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you. (1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 NKJV)
If we keep our focus on building the kingdom of God instead of our own kingdoms we will watch out more for each other instead of bringing each other down. Unity overcome and division causes defeat. A kingdom against itself cannot stand. We as believers in Christ belong to the same kingdom whether we like each other or don’t. Satan knows that if he can cause us to fight against each other and to bring each other down, his job is to sit back and laugh at us.
The kingdom of God suffers violence regularly and part of the violence is caused by us against one another. What we forget is that Satan does not walk around confronting us face to face but uses people who allow him to use them knowingly or unknowingly. Our goal as believers should be focused on how we are growing the kingdom of God by our actions and words towards others instead of focusing on how someone else’s bad situation exalts us over them. If your sister’s dress has rip on the back, don’t show it to everyone accusing her of dressing in a bad fashion. Point it out to your sister because most probably, she may not be aware her dress has a rip on the back. Instead spreading negative talk you heard about someone, talk to that person and at least find out facts before spreading it if you must.
Good example; When I left my work position as a chaplain, I was trying to update my face book. I was working from home and as I tried to type this on my job position, I noticed many descriptions came up regarding working from home. I clicked on one of them and saved it without realizing it was a horrible Facebook site. After some time, I noticed some people making sweeping statements that were directed at me working home but could not understand why they were doing this. Eventually, I opened my Facebook to public to inspire others. I was shocked at the friend requests I was getting which made me look into Facebook closely and try to understand more about the Facebook world. It was then I scrolled all the way down only to find the Facebook I had associated with and I was in total shock because I had no idea such horrible Facebook existed let alone the fact that I had saved one of them as my place of work. All along, I received attacks but had no idea why. Instead of someone consulting me about it, some attacked me and some avoided me all together. Satan uses situations like this to keep us divided because he knows that if he can divide us he can fight and win over us.
Our worst enemy is competition against each other. When one of our feet step forward to walk, the other foot doesn’t work at getting ahead. It holds the ground stead to support the body. In the same way. We should hold our ground steady to support the kingdom of God instead of trying to chase to win over our brother or sister who stepped ahead. If we all keep moving forward in our positions, we will make it and what will matter is not how far ahead we are but how faithful we have been with what was committed to us.
The bible calls us to do whatever we can to be in unity and to restore one another. When we stay together, we fight strong. We should do our best to avoid friendly fires because what they do is destabilize the kingdom of God. Let us not be too quick to judge but instead seek every opportunity possible to restore our own who are in God’s kingdom.
19 Brethren, if anyone among you wanders from the truth, and someone turns him back, 20 let him know that he who turns a sinner from the error of his way will save a soul[f] from death and cover a multitude of sins. (James 5:19-20 NKJV).
As a parent, you are the greatest influence in your child’s life. The is no one as important as you in your child’s life. Other people make an impact along the way, but nothing close to the one you make. This is a great reason, spending a lot of time with your children is very important. Excellent parenting depends of how much of your time you invest on your children. Not money, gifts, and all the other things we give. First, the more time you spend with your child, the more you get to know your child. Just because they are our children doesn’t automatically mean we know them very well. It takes time to know anyone and it takes time to build a genuine relationship. The better you know your child, the more accurate you are advocating for them in times of need, the more you can strength their strengths and help them overcome or learn to manage their weaknesses, the more you can help boost their self-esteem, the more their sense of security is increased etc.
We live in a society that says if you are not on the run you are boring or lazy or wasting time. However, suicide has been on the rise, low self-image on the rise, lack of fulfillment, depression and other mental disorders including in children. How can it be that we run so much that we don’t have time for the most important aspects of our lives. Our spouse, our children, family, time for ourselves and worst of all, no time for God! How can we be surprised at the results we are getting in our society?
Being busy doesn’t necessary mean being productive. The greatest key to productivity is living a balanced life which includes having time to reflect and rest. The greatest gift we can give to our children and to each other is our time. Investing time on your children will make a big difference in the rest of their life functions starting with how they feel about themselves.
Deuteronomy shows the importance of spending a lot of time with our children. All day long. When you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down and when you rise up!
Deuteronomy 11:19-21New King James Version (NKJV)
19 You shall teach them to your children, speaking of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up. 20 And you shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates, 21 that your days and the days of your children may be multiplied in the land of which the Lord swore to your fathers to give them, like the days of the heavens above the earth.